Outsiders looking in wonder why victims stay with their abuser, why they don’t walk away after the first time. They stay because the emotional violence inflicted removes hope. The abuser convinces you that nobody else would want you, and that you cannot survive on your own.
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Understanding why some self-harms is so difficult if you've never done it yourself. I hope this essay can help offer some insight into why people feel the need to hurt themselves. The reasons are probably different to what you'd imagine.
It's so difficult when you realise someone you care about self-harms. Here is some advice on how best to support them.
“The Big Talk” doesn’t happen in reality. You may think you are going to have it, but you won’t. If somebody is so guarded, so vulnerable, they aren’t going to tell you everything at once, not if there is a risk of losing you.
Suicide. Seven letters, three syllables. An act that affects so many people. An event which leaves so many questions, never to be answered. A word that so few are able to say. Emotions that so few are willing to discuss openly.
The Kübler-Ross model of the Five Stages of Grief can be applied to the end of a relationship. Although nobody has passed away, you still need to grieve - for the death of a relationship; the ending of a future you had planned.
When I saw the crazy man with the strange mask, pulling out his hair and talking to the rats, I didn’t know what to make of him. I could never have imagined what he would come to mean to me.
For a young boy, their relationship with their father determines so much about themselves. How can they cope when their dad doesn't care enough to be there?
I was 18 when my then-partner got pregnant. It was at the 12-week scan that we discovered our child had no heartbeat. Sadly, this isn’t unusual – it is estimated 80% of miscarriages occur in the first trimester. It didn’t stop it hurting like hell though.
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