In the immediate aftermath of Robin Williams' death, I wrote this essay about how the rising epidemic of suicide will become a plague of biblical proportions, unless we, as people, take responsibility for changing our society.
There is so much advice out there for people who suffer from depression, but so little support for the loved ones of people with depression. This essay was written to help them.
I always thought I knew what depression was. Then, one day, it turned my life upside down.
When people are struggling, they are often advised to seek counselling. If you have never done so before, it can be scary to think of opening up to a stranger. This essay explains why it will help you to do so.
This open letter was written for a wonderful book called 'The Recovery Letters,' written by people who have suffered with mental illness to those who are suffering. It was an honour to contribute towards it, and it is highly recommended for anyone who struggles with mental illness.
Outsiders looking in wonder why victims stay with their abuser, why they don’t walk away after the first time. They stay because the emotional violence inflicted removes hope. The abuser convinces you that nobody else would want you, and that you cannot survive on your own.
Understanding why some self-harms is so difficult if you've never done it yourself. I hope this essay can help offer some insight into why people feel the need to hurt themselves. The reasons are probably different to what you'd imagine.
It's so difficult when you realise someone you care about self-harms. Here is some advice on how best to support them.
'The Big Talk' doesn’t happen in reality. You may think you are going to have it, but you won’t. If somebody is so guarded, so vulnerable, they aren’t going to tell you everything at once, not if there is a risk of losing you.
Suicide. Seven letters, three syllables. An act that affects so many people. An event which leaves so many questions, never to be answered. A word that so few are able to say. Emotions that so few are willing to discuss openly.
When I saw the crazy man with the strange mask, pulling out his hair and talking to the rats, I didn’t know what to make of him. I could never have imagined what he would come to mean to me.
For a young boy, their relationship with their father determines so much about themselves. How can they cope when their dad doesn't care enough to be there?
I was 18 when my then-partner got pregnant. It was at the 12-week scan that we discovered our child had no heartbeat. Sadly, this isn’t unusual – it is estimated 80% of miscarriages occur in the first trimester. It didn’t stop it hurting like hell though.
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Lawes' longer-form writings on mental health and the issues that affect him the most deeply, whether they be events in his personal life or reactions to happenings in the modern world.